Remembering Those We Memorialize

written by Jeanna Bradley

I would like to take a moment of your time to talk about something most people don’t often think about. Headstones, grave markers, monuments, or tombstones, whatever you want to call them, they are an expensive memorial of a loved one. Common thought is that the stone markers will last forever, This is simply not true, as a walk around any old cemetery will show.

Weather, pollution, and many environmental elements cause wear and damage to the lovingly chosen stone. Most cemeteries take care of the grounds, but not the actual markers. Well-intentioned but improper cleaning methods can also cause permanent damage, so here are a few guidelines to maintain these memories.

Do gently brush off grass clippings and debris.

Do not use any household cleaning products and definitely not bleach.

Do use a gentle bristle brush and distilled water.

Do not pour cold water on a warm stone, as it can cause micro fractures and worse damage.

Do not use any power tools or pressure washers, wire brushes or anything that can scratch the surface of the stone.

Scratches, even tiny ones can lead to biological growth finding a way into the stone, much like how a cavity can start on a tooth. Exposed stone builds a protective layer, A gentle cleaning at least once a year can help prevent some of this. However, stains and damage will require professional help. In these situations, remember that the damage wasn’t caused instantly, and any “instant gratification” fix will be like using a Dremel or Ajax on your teeth, it might look good for a minute, but the damage will be permanent.